Dear Pregnant Readers,

Is there someone in your life acting anxious about your upcoming birth?

Maybe they keep asking questions about your birth preparation or birth plan?

Maybe they want to tell you about their birth, but it isn’t even a helpful, or positive, story?

It is likely these birth conversations are freaking you out a bit, or at the very least, annoying you!

Why might a person in your life seem a bit obsessive about birth?

Some possible scenarios:

Here’s a sad, possible, situation to be aware of: there’s someone in your life who may not realise they carry a large fear of birth, they may even claim to have had a positive experience. Unfortunately they have suppressed negative birth experiences they have never processed or learned from. Now, inadvertently, they’re projecting their deep-seated fears onto expectant mothers, including you. It’s crucial to address this situation, the last thing a pregnant woman needs are another person’s fears or traumas put upon her. (If you would like guidance around birth fears or anxieties feel free to message me – I’m here to help!)

Here is a more positive scenario: there’s someone in your life who had an upsetting birth experience but has gained valuable insights from it (yay!), especially about what they wish they had done differently. Now, they’re eager to share these lessons with you. However, their anxiety about ensuring you have a smooth birth might cause them to come across as overly intense, sometimes even saying some unreal sounding, or alarming, things. Despite their good intentions, it’s important to only follow the recommendations that feel right for you, if you try to do it all or jump to advanced birth podcasts or articles too fast, you are at risk of overwhelm. If they are suggesting, you do a private birth course – LISTEN to them!! This could be the perfect place for you as your course educator can gently with your birth learnings – at the pace you need.